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The Star Trek Secret to Happiness

For people who glance at blog posts for 10 seconds and move on to the next one: The Star Trek secret to happiness in life is to never let McCoy to the bridge.

What the heck does that mean?
Interested? Good. Read on.

Transactional Analysis in 60 seconds
Transactional Analysis, a theory of psychology and psychoanalysis, says that there are actually three people living in you and trying to take control of you. The Parent, the Adult and the Child.

Meet the Parent
The parent criticizes, judges, and undercuts. He creates imaginary fears and scares the hell out of you. He will not let you create a Facebook account, citing security reasons. He will not let you write that blog post, threatening with ridicule. He will not let you quit your job and found a startup, foretelling doom. In the extreme, he may make you genuinely think that you are being surveilled by evil people. He is against every interesting, fun thing you do that makes life…you know…life. He constantly reminds sins, rules, laws and ethics…He is the Dr. McCoy in you.

The Fascinating Adult
The Adult is the logical one. He is the Mr. Spock in you. He processes information like a computer and executes his decisions like one. Like a Vulcan, the Adult has no emotions whatsoever, which means he has no fear, does not feel love or compassion, and does not regret his actions. These all sound great and make a very interesting TV character to watch. In real life, these are symptoms of psychopaths.

The Child in You
Meet the Captain Kirk in you. He is adventurous, courageous and spontaneous. He is in a whirlwind of emotions and passions. He composes songs, plays games and falls in love. The Child is a little crazy, very funny and truly adorable. He is also extremely vulnerable.

The Secret to Happiness
The secret to being happy in life is to let the Child in you have his way, while the Adult in you is closely watching his actions. After all, it was Kirk who was the Captain of the Enterprise while Mr. Spock was watching over him. They didn’t even allow McCoy to the bridge.

Yalım K. Gerger (@yalimgerger)

  • Anonymous

    McCoy’s “a doctor not a parent”!, Good post, must try to channel my inner Kirk more often :)

  • http://www.gerger.co Yalim K. Gerger

    Thank you, Dan. Let the inner Kirk take the driver seat and baldly go where no Dan has gone before. :-)

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